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That is the killer line that a lot of fat women get. \u00a0 Even the ones that don’t have a pretty face hear that. \u00a0 It’s always said with the inference being, “but it’s a damn shame about the rest of you!” \u00a0 But that is never said. \u00a0 Okay, it’s rarely said. \u00a0 You can hear it though, “You have such a pretty face…but it’s a damn shame about the rest of you.” \u00a0 Ahh, it makes me curse.<\/p>\n
Speaking of cursing. \u00a0 I got into an argument recently with someone I care very much about. \u00a0 I don’t often have those kinds of confrontations. \u00a0 Which isn’t to say, I don’t have confrontations. \u00a0 I seem to have more and more of those as I get older. \u00a0 Just ask the manager at the Verizon store here in West Hollywood. \u00a0 That poor excuse for a manager in customer service knows I don’t shy away from confrontation. \u00a0 But this other interaction I had I was most calm even though I raised my voice. \u00a0 I should say that everything is really good between us now. \u00a0 However, this person did tell me I used obscenities. \u00a0 Fuck, I don’t even think of them as obscenities. \u00a0 Sure, I try not to use them when I speak to my step father. \u00a0 He is awesome and very old school and doesn’t like to hear “obscenities” coming from my mouth. \u00a0 So, in deference to him, I don’t use those words. For most other people, get over it. \u00a0 They are words. \u00a0 Of course, I don’t curse like I have something wrong with me that requires a seratonin reuptake inhibitor. \u00a0 Sometimes it’s just called for. And, most of the time it just shouldn’t matter.<\/p>\n
People are so funny about words. \u00a0 I was talking to someone yesterday and I called myself “fat.” \u00a0 He tripped all over himself, “don’t call yourself that!” he stammered. \u00a0 Really?! \u00a0 I explained that it’s just a descriptor. \u00a0 I wasn’t saying anything bad about myself. \u00a0 It wasn’t like I was calling myself ugly or unfortunate in any way. \u00a0 I told him as long as he didn’t yell it at me I was fine.<\/p>\n
I was talking to a girlfriend this morning about that exchange from yesterday. \u00a0 She agreed with me about it being a descriptor. \u00a0 At least she mostly agreed. \u00a0 When I told her some guys had walked behind me and oinked, in a shopping mall outside Chicago a couple of years ago, she couldn’t understand why I didn’t confront them. \u00a0 It wasn’t like I was going to make a difference for those boys in that moment. \u00a0 They were young and ignorant. \u00a0 Plus I think they probably thought I was hot.<\/p>\n
I have a theory. \u00a0 It’s a theory I have had for a while. \u00a0 It started when I discovered there was a whole world of men who actually preferred big women. \u00a0 Yes, just like there are men who prefer brunettes and men who prefer blonds or big breasts or small breasts etc. there are men who like big women. \u00a0 Yes, like a preference! \u00a0 What I also discovered was there are men who have an overwhelming desire to try a big woman. \u00a0 Sure there are the men in between. \u00a0 There are those men who are afraid they will be ostracized if they let people know they have a preference for big women. \u00a0 They are afraid of what society or their mother’s or their buddies will think. \u00a0 Wimps and cowards, I say! \u00a0 Those are the men who are the ones who oink when they see a fat woman or yell out of the car, “Hey Fatty!” \u00a0 They are the ones who protest the most. \u00a0 Which leads me to my theory that the ones who are the most vocal about it are the ones who are dying to get into those size 3x panties.<\/p>\n
Here’s a thought. \u00a0 Maybe when I say the word, “fat”, people cringe because to them it is awful. \u00a0 Not just the word but what it’s describing. \u00a0 Maybe we have been so trained, especially in our current culture, to believe that fat intrinsically is bad that when we here the word we cringe as if someone said something stupendously awful. \u00a0 That guy I was speaking to was talking about an actress who he feels “needs to lose 10 pounds in order to be a star.” \u00a0 She is maybe a size 6 on fat day during her period. \u00a0 Maybe the word “fat” isn’t just an ugly word to people but maybe it also describes something that is beyond ugly. \u00a0 I had a friend growing up whose mother was afraid of having me play with her after school for fear that her daughter would get fat too. \u00a0 Like it was contagious.<\/p>\n
I am ridiculously fortunate to be living the life I live. \u00a0 I am happy. \u00a0 I am healthy. \u00a0 I have a great husband. I live in Los Angeles. \u00a0 I have a wonderful family. \u00a0 I have fabulous friends. \u00a0 I am pursuing what gets me out of bed in the morning. \u00a0 Our bills are paid this month. \u00a0 I have health care. \u00a0 I have a twenty in my wallet. \u00a0 I love my body. And, I am FAT. \u00a0 I know there are A LOT of people out there who, thin and fat alike, can’t say most of that. \u00a0 Maybe it’s my mission to make a difference. \u00a0 Maybe I should challenge people to stop looking at what they perceive as wrong with themselves and stop trying to fix themselves and start loving themselves and nurturing themselves and stop wanting and hoping and start making a difference for themselves. \u00a0 When I told Oprah I loved my body she cringed and said, “You love your body?!” \u00a0 Clearly, she has issues with being fat. \u00a0 Maybe I should start with her.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
That is the killer line that a lot of fat women get. \u00a0 Even the ones that don’t have a pretty face hear that. \u00a0 It’s always said with the inference being, “but it’s a damn shame about the rest of you!” \u00a0 But that is never said. \u00a0 Okay, it’s rarely said. \u00a0 You… Continue reading You Have Such A Pretty Face<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[7,8,14,26,27,29,30,40,47],"class_list":["post-492","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-life-in-los-angeles","tag-actor","tag-actress","tag-bbw","tag-fat","tag-fat-girl","tag-fat-women","tag-fatty","tag-lisa-brounstein","tag-oprah","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/492","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=492"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/492\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=492"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=492"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=492"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}