I had written another blog and was all ready to post it when I heard about ABC and FOX banning an ad for Lane Bryant’s lingerie brand Cacique.<\/p>\n
<\/embed><\/object><\/p>\nOf course, I had to look it up. \u00a0 My first thought was, “Are you fucking kidding me?!” \u00a0 Those women are beautiful. \u00a0 Next to me they are anorexic thin. \u00a0 But in today’s societal view of plus-size women they’re fat. \u00a0 I would peg them at maybe a size 8-10 after a big meal. \u00a0 Which in today’s world is average. \u00a0 Quite frankly, they are smaller than average given that there are statistics that state 60% of American women are over a size 14. \u00a0 Regardless, they aren’t the thin women we are used to seeing in the Victoria’s Secret ads, which I must say, are WAY more risque and sexual than this ad.<\/p>\nI know I need a segue way here but trust me this will make sense. \u00a0 When I moved to Los Angeles to be an actor and a writer I had no idea what was lying ahead for me. \u00a0 When I got here I really didn’t know people. \u00a0 I had a friend who lived here but he was quite busy with his life. \u00a0 Other than that I was on my own with my ideas, my computer with my dial up modem and my stand-up comedy. \u00a0 I performed at The Comedy Store and met some people. \u00a0 But overall I was a loner. \u00a0 I would play on my computer for hours. \u00a0 I would go on AOL and talk to men in chat rooms. \u00a0 I would lie and tell them I was thin because, even though I was on the road to self-acceptance, I had yet to meet a man who liked fat women. \u00a0 Was there such a thing? \u00a0 Well, yes, after much embarrassment of having to tell men that actually I was a plus-size woman, “how fat are you?!!” \u00a0 UGH. \u00a0 I found there were men who liked big women. \u00a0 I found BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) chat rooms on line. \u00a0 A whole world opened up for me. \u00a0 I was fortunate to meet some great women during that time who are now life long friends as well.<\/p>\nI also subscribed to BBW magazine. \u00a0 I had read the magazine years before. \u00a0 I had \u00a0even used their personal ads to find romance and didn’t. \u00a0 So, I knew there was a world \u00a0out there that I was interested in. \u00a0 I just didn’t realize how big the world was so-to-speak. \u00a0 In the back of one of the magazines there was an ad for a mens magazine for men who like big women. \u00a0 It wasn’t your standard pink-part magazine. \u00a0 It looked like it might even be a magazine that women could also enjoy. \u00a0 So, I subscribed.<\/p>\nIn the meantime, I submitted myself to the BBW Model contest. \u00a0 I remember when I was younger I had done it and never heard back. \u00a0 I figured I had nothing to lose sitting in LA hoping to make it as an actor. \u00a0 I submitted photos. \u00a0 And, I did hear back this time. \u00a0 They told me I didn’t make it into their contest but they liked my look and asked that I be a professional model for them. \u00a0 It was a one-time deal. \u00a0 It was a great and memorable experience. \u00a0 At the time, BBW magazine was owned by Larry Flynt. \u00a0 Yes, Larry Flynt of Hustler magazine fame. \u00a0 We shot out in one of his porn studios in Chatsworth in the San Fernando Valley. \u00a0 Hilarious. \u00a0 They put the mattresses up against the walls so, we would have room to shoot. \u00a0 There were stacks of all kinds of porn magazines filled with images of every fetish you could think of and some you would be grateful to have not thought of. \u00a0 It was a kick. \u00a0 As it turns out, I was the largest model to ever grace the pages of BBW magazine. \u00a0 At least up until that point.<\/p>\nThen I received my copy of the mens magazine I had mentioned earlier. \u00a0 WOW! \u00a0 I was so excited to see this magazine. \u00a0 No pink parts. \u00a0 No gynecological poses. \u00a0 Just very big and mostly, very beautiful women. \u00a0 In the back of the magazine was a one-page article about BBW dances being offered here in Los Angeles. \u00a0 The article had pictures of a Halloween party with big women dressed up having fun. Literally, in one sitting, my whole world opened up. \u00a0 \u00a0 I called and found out about the next dance and within a couple of weeks found myself attending a dance party in a room filled with big women and the men who wanted them. \u00a0 WooHoo! \u00a0 Okay, so this isn’t the point of this particular blog. \u00a0 I promise in an upcoming blog I will tell you all about the dances. And, there is much to tell.<\/p>\nThis magazine was like a bomb going off in my world. \u00a0 I was so excited to read every word. \u00a0 Sure some of it wasn’t for me. \u00a0 But overall it was magic. Even the imagery of seeing these big women showing \u00a0off their bodies was exciting to me. \u00a0 Not in a sexual way. \u00a0 But in a way that had me get that my body was beautiful and sexy. \u00a0 I was able to look at my body and not be disgusted and angry. \u00a0 After a couple of issues I did something I never in a million years would have imagined. \u00a0 I submitted my photos to the magazine. \u00a0 Yes, I had a friend take some pictures of me in lingerie and I submitted them for consideration. \u00a0 Surprisingly, for me, they wanted to use them in their magazine. \u00a0 Then they told me I was going to be on the cover. \u00a0 Within a year I went from being a woman who didn’t date to being a woman on the cover of a mens magazine. \u00a0 Sounds like \u00a0a Hollywood story to me.<\/p>\nOf course, I told my mother. \u00a0 I had to let her know. \u00a0 In hindsight, I probably didn’t have to let her know. \u00a0 It might have been easier on her to not know for a variety of reasons. This wasn’t a magazine that you would find on shelf in a bookstore. \u00a0 It was a subscription-only magazine and you had to know about it to find it. \u00a0 But for whatever reason I told my mother. \u00a0 There was probably some veiled in-your-face attitude on my part too. \u00a0 It wasn’t our finest moment as mother and daughter. \u00a0 Sure, it worked out in the long-run but, wow, in the moment, she wasn’t pleased. \u00a0 It didn’t matter that I told her I was covered. \u00a0 I told her I wasn’t completely naked. \u00a0 I told her it was so liberating and freeing for me and that I felt so beautiful and sexy. \u00a0 None of that mattered. \u00a0 The fear for her was what if someone found out. \u00a0 What if one of their friends found out, or worse, saw the magazine. \u00a0 What I said to her was that if one of their friends found out than we would know a lot more about them they would about us. \u00a0 Really! \u00a0 If one of the husbands of my mom’s friends saw the magazine we would definitely know what he liked. \u00a0 Angrily, I said to her, “If I was in thin and in Playboy completely naked showing off every nook and cranny of my body you would be less upset than you are about this. \u00a0 In fact, you would be proud. \u00a0 Your anger is because I’m fat!” \u00a0 Like I said, not our finest moment. Ultimately, it brought us closer being able to be so honest with each other. \u00a0 Just ask our good friend Oprah.<\/p>\nSo, back to the banning of the Lane Bryant ad. \u00a0 Is it really because it is too sexy for television? \u00a0 Or is it because the women are fat? \u00a0 And, what about the Victoria’s Secret ads on television or even the Playtex bra commercials? \u00a0 They are all women in bras with the difference being the Lane Bryant models are larger than the other models. \u00a0 In my world, they certainly aren’t fat. \u00a0 Could it be some manufactroversy <\/a>(a manufactured controversy that is motivated by profit)? \u00a0 I really hope that because of this controversy more people see the ad than would have seen it before. \u00a0 I am sure more people are talking about it. \u00a0 I certainly am!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I had written another blog and was all ready to post it when I heard about ABC and FOX banning an ad for Lane Bryant’s lingerie brand Cacique. Of course, I had to look it up. \u00a0 My first thought was, “Are you fucking kidding me?!” \u00a0 Those women are beautiful. \u00a0 Next to me… Continue reading Hide Your Fat Women<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-412","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-life-in-los-angeles","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/412","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=412"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/412\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=412"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=412"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=412"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
Of course, I had to look it up. \u00a0 My first thought was, “Are you fucking kidding me?!” \u00a0 Those women are beautiful. \u00a0 Next to me they are anorexic thin. \u00a0 But in today’s societal view of plus-size women they’re fat. \u00a0 I would peg them at maybe a size 8-10 after a big meal. \u00a0 Which in today’s world is average. \u00a0 Quite frankly, they are smaller than average given that there are statistics that state 60% of American women are over a size 14. \u00a0 Regardless, they aren’t the thin women we are used to seeing in the Victoria’s Secret ads, which I must say, are WAY more risque and sexual than this ad.<\/p>\n
I know I need a segue way here but trust me this will make sense. \u00a0 When I moved to Los Angeles to be an actor and a writer I had no idea what was lying ahead for me. \u00a0 When I got here I really didn’t know people. \u00a0 I had a friend who lived here but he was quite busy with his life. \u00a0 Other than that I was on my own with my ideas, my computer with my dial up modem and my stand-up comedy. \u00a0 I performed at The Comedy Store and met some people. \u00a0 But overall I was a loner. \u00a0 I would play on my computer for hours. \u00a0 I would go on AOL and talk to men in chat rooms. \u00a0 I would lie and tell them I was thin because, even though I was on the road to self-acceptance, I had yet to meet a man who liked fat women. \u00a0 Was there such a thing? \u00a0 Well, yes, after much embarrassment of having to tell men that actually I was a plus-size woman, “how fat are you?!!” \u00a0 UGH. \u00a0 I found there were men who liked big women. \u00a0 I found BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) chat rooms on line. \u00a0 A whole world opened up for me. \u00a0 I was fortunate to meet some great women during that time who are now life long friends as well.<\/p>\n
I also subscribed to BBW magazine. \u00a0 I had read the magazine years before. \u00a0 I had \u00a0even used their personal ads to find romance and didn’t. \u00a0 So, I knew there was a world \u00a0out there that I was interested in. \u00a0 I just didn’t realize how big the world was so-to-speak. \u00a0 In the back of one of the magazines there was an ad for a mens magazine for men who like big women. \u00a0 It wasn’t your standard pink-part magazine. \u00a0 It looked like it might even be a magazine that women could also enjoy. \u00a0 So, I subscribed.<\/p>\n
In the meantime, I submitted myself to the BBW Model contest. \u00a0 I remember when I was younger I had done it and never heard back. \u00a0 I figured I had nothing to lose sitting in LA hoping to make it as an actor. \u00a0 I submitted photos. \u00a0 And, I did hear back this time. \u00a0 They told me I didn’t make it into their contest but they liked my look and asked that I be a professional model for them. \u00a0 It was a one-time deal. \u00a0 It was a great and memorable experience. \u00a0 At the time, BBW magazine was owned by Larry Flynt. \u00a0 Yes, Larry Flynt of Hustler magazine fame. \u00a0 We shot out in one of his porn studios in Chatsworth in the San Fernando Valley. \u00a0 Hilarious. \u00a0 They put the mattresses up against the walls so, we would have room to shoot. \u00a0 There were stacks of all kinds of porn magazines filled with images of every fetish you could think of and some you would be grateful to have not thought of. \u00a0 It was a kick. \u00a0 As it turns out, I was the largest model to ever grace the pages of BBW magazine. \u00a0 At least up until that point.<\/p>\n
Then I received my copy of the mens magazine I had mentioned earlier. \u00a0 WOW! \u00a0 I was so excited to see this magazine. \u00a0 No pink parts. \u00a0 No gynecological poses. \u00a0 Just very big and mostly, very beautiful women. \u00a0 In the back of the magazine was a one-page article about BBW dances being offered here in Los Angeles. \u00a0 The article had pictures of a Halloween party with big women dressed up having fun. Literally, in one sitting, my whole world opened up. \u00a0 \u00a0 I called and found out about the next dance and within a couple of weeks found myself attending a dance party in a room filled with big women and the men who wanted them. \u00a0 WooHoo! \u00a0 Okay, so this isn’t the point of this particular blog. \u00a0 I promise in an upcoming blog I will tell you all about the dances. And, there is much to tell.<\/p>\n
This magazine was like a bomb going off in my world. \u00a0 I was so excited to read every word. \u00a0 Sure some of it wasn’t for me. \u00a0 But overall it was magic. Even the imagery of seeing these big women showing \u00a0off their bodies was exciting to me. \u00a0 Not in a sexual way. \u00a0 But in a way that had me get that my body was beautiful and sexy. \u00a0 I was able to look at my body and not be disgusted and angry. \u00a0 After a couple of issues I did something I never in a million years would have imagined. \u00a0 I submitted my photos to the magazine. \u00a0 Yes, I had a friend take some pictures of me in lingerie and I submitted them for consideration. \u00a0 Surprisingly, for me, they wanted to use them in their magazine. \u00a0 Then they told me I was going to be on the cover. \u00a0 Within a year I went from being a woman who didn’t date to being a woman on the cover of a mens magazine. \u00a0 Sounds like \u00a0a Hollywood story to me.<\/p>\n
Of course, I told my mother. \u00a0 I had to let her know. \u00a0 In hindsight, I probably didn’t have to let her know. \u00a0 It might have been easier on her to not know for a variety of reasons. This wasn’t a magazine that you would find on shelf in a bookstore. \u00a0 It was a subscription-only magazine and you had to know about it to find it. \u00a0 But for whatever reason I told my mother. \u00a0 There was probably some veiled in-your-face attitude on my part too. \u00a0 It wasn’t our finest moment as mother and daughter. \u00a0 Sure, it worked out in the long-run but, wow, in the moment, she wasn’t pleased. \u00a0 It didn’t matter that I told her I was covered. \u00a0 I told her I wasn’t completely naked. \u00a0 I told her it was so liberating and freeing for me and that I felt so beautiful and sexy. \u00a0 None of that mattered. \u00a0 The fear for her was what if someone found out. \u00a0 What if one of their friends found out, or worse, saw the magazine. \u00a0 What I said to her was that if one of their friends found out than we would know a lot more about them they would about us. \u00a0 Really! \u00a0 If one of the husbands of my mom’s friends saw the magazine we would definitely know what he liked. \u00a0 Angrily, I said to her, “If I was in thin and in Playboy completely naked showing off every nook and cranny of my body you would be less upset than you are about this. \u00a0 In fact, you would be proud. \u00a0 Your anger is because I’m fat!” \u00a0 Like I said, not our finest moment. Ultimately, it brought us closer being able to be so honest with each other. \u00a0 Just ask our good friend Oprah.<\/p>\n
So, back to the banning of the Lane Bryant ad. \u00a0 Is it really because it is too sexy for television? \u00a0 Or is it because the women are fat? \u00a0 And, what about the Victoria’s Secret ads on television or even the Playtex bra commercials? \u00a0 They are all women in bras with the difference being the Lane Bryant models are larger than the other models. \u00a0 In my world, they certainly aren’t fat. \u00a0 Could it be some manufactroversy <\/a>(a manufactured controversy that is motivated by profit)? \u00a0 I really hope that because of this controversy more people see the ad than would have seen it before. \u00a0 I am sure more people are talking about it. \u00a0 I certainly am!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I had written another blog and was all ready to post it when I heard about ABC and FOX banning an ad for Lane Bryant’s lingerie brand Cacique. Of course, I had to look it up. \u00a0 My first thought was, “Are you fucking kidding me?!” \u00a0 Those women are beautiful. \u00a0 Next to me… Continue reading Hide Your Fat Women<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-412","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-life-in-los-angeles","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/412","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=412"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/412\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=412"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=412"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=412"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
I had written another blog and was all ready to post it when I heard about ABC and FOX banning an ad for Lane Bryant’s lingerie brand Cacique. Of course, I had to look it up. \u00a0 My first thought was, “Are you fucking kidding me?!” \u00a0 Those women are beautiful. \u00a0 Next to me… Continue reading Hide Your Fat Women<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-412","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-life-in-los-angeles","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/412","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=412"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/412\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=412"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=412"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.lisabrounstein.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=412"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}